Embrace Life Like a Video Game with Defined Rules

In my past years, I was an active participant in the "should be" game. And I wasted lots of energy on this. What I mean by the "should be" game is the one where you keep fighting "what is" in lieu of what you think you are entitled to. Surprisingly, this is very common and something that we all battle with. 

One of the strategies I adopted in later years was to look at life like a video game with defined rules. There are many rules we have figured out, and there are many rules we have not. But if you truly want to reach your goal you need to be as strategic as possible and play within the defined rules you know already exist. Don't fight what is, acknowledge it and attack within these constructs. It's like the old saying goes "don't hate the player, hate the game". The sooner you stop wasting energy fighting what "should be" and start focusing that energy on "what is" the sooner you will reach that goal.

Accept what is, be strategic and define your plan of attack. It will make achieving it that much easier.